I’ve read a lot of self-help/motivational books over the years and have taken bits and pieces from each of them to build the life I lead today. Some of the ‘experts’ claim that the most important statements one can make to another human being are “I love you” or “I am sorry.” While both of these phrases certainly belong in everyone’s vocabulary, (and should be used frequently in my opinion), I recently heard 9 words that should be shared with the people in your life, especially with those you are fortunate to be around in their early childhood.
Last Sunday afternoon, my hubby and I went to an afternoon matinee at our local theatre. I got to choose the movie we’d see, and since I’d heard rave reviews of the film, The Help, based on the book by Kathryn Stockett, that was my pick.
It turned out to be best $10.00 I’ve spent in years.
This amazing movie chronicles the behind the scenes feelings of colored domestic maids in the early 1960’s in Jackson, MS. While I suspect that some of the incidents and situations in the movie were indeed true, I’m choosing not to comment on the politics of the film, but rather the words that from the moment I heard them, I knew them to be some of the most profound I’ve heard in my lifetime.
The main character, Aibileen Clark, portrayed brilliantly by actress Viola Davis, tells her story of raising white children during this era. In one of the early scenes in the movie, Aibileen reaches into a crib, picks up the little white girl she is looking after, sits down with her in a rocking chair near the bed, and says…
“You is kind; you is smart; you is important.”
9 words.
Aibileen makes the little girl repeat these words after she says them to her as if repeating them will somehow make the child realize her own worth.
I’ve been wondering all week long what would happen if all of us said these 9 words to the children in our life. Better yet, what if we, as adults, switched them around a bit and daily told ourselves, ‘I am kind; I am smart; I am important.”
They say it takes 28 days to either break or form a new habit. I’m issuing a challenge to everyone who reads this post. For the next 28 days, before you get out of your bed each morning, silently say these words: “I am kind; I am smart; I am important.” Better yet, if you happen to have children or grandchildren, or even young nieces and nephews, at least once a day tell THEM these same words.
9 simple words.
I wish I’d heard them sooner.





Call me sick, call me totally whacko, but I thought I’d crack up laughing this morning when I read an AP posting entitled, “Cookbook pulped over ‘ground black people’ typo.” First off, I wondered why the writer had inserted the word ‘pulped’ into the title of the column. Were they trying to be cutesy and use a play on words, or did the actual headline include a typo as well? Had they meant to say, “Cookbook PULLED over ‘ground black people’ typo?”
I woke up this morning to bright, beautiful sunshine flooding my bedroom through the slats of my window blind. This is the second day in a row where I experienced this wonderful phenomenon after a week that brought more snow, (blech!) and cold temperatures to my little corner of the east coast of Canada. At this point, any warmth or semblance thereof brings me comfort as I am not a winter person by any stretch of the imagination.
As a writer and editor, it’s my job to research many different websites when preparing content for my clients. While I’ve seen some beautifully designed and executed sites in my searches, it never ceases to amaze me that when reading some of the content, I’m left feeling slightly puzzled and perplexed. And do you know why? It’s because their words leave me with two major unanswered questions, namely, “What do you do?” and “What are you offering me as a potential consumer?”
I was doing my morning reading from a wonderful book of inspirational poems, and today’s excerpt was called “High Flight.” I’d read these words before but had never known who was the writer, so like any self-respecting internet junkie, I did a search to find out who the author was and discovered it was John Gillespie Magee, Jr. But there’s a story behind this sonnet, and a rather interesting one as well.